’I’m fighting for Haydar to attend special school.’ As soon as I said those words to anybody they thought I was going gaga.
‘A special school? No way! Why would you want that?’ ‘He’ll learn bad habits!’ ‘How is that helping him?’
I had heard enough. All I wanted was the best for my boy and if that meant he was attending a special school then so be it.
I went through an appeal to get him in as the Local Authority said I’m not entitled to it (eventhough my boy was on the lower functioning scale). The appeal went on for a while and eventually they accepted my request. You know what? It’s the best decision I have made!
My boy started special school when he was 4 in a nappy, only saying ‘amma’ and displaying extreme behavioural diifficulties. Within the year he came out being able to use the toilet independently, speaking in short sentences: ‘I want cookie’ and much more able to engage in social situations without hitting! The screaming had lessened too. Overall, we were so overwhelmed!
He is now in Year 2 attending a mainstream school and I can honestly say he is just like the other children. He even makes jokes!!!!! I was told too that he doesn’t need a TA fulltime either.
I believe the fight I went through to get him a solid foundation has got him where he is and I’m glad I didn’tlisten to those voices around me telling me otherwise.
You do what you need to do to help your children eventhough it may seem as though it is the wrong choice.
Always remember: Autism is Acceptable!